London, England, February 2014 (One of my favourite humans)
Me with my friend and brother
I love this person - I strive to be this brave and accepting of my body. And I agree, it is really fun to fuck with people when you pass as a woman with a beard/moustache
I think the fact that white people have been the most prone to decide whether I’m sufficiently authentic as a Latina or a WOC really speaks to the amount of authority these people sincerely believe they have, even with regard to cultures/groups they don’t even belong to. I mean really, what arrogance.
I think the fact that EVERYONE ELSE seems to decide whether I’m sufficiently Latin, or Middle East, or European, or white or POC really speaks to the amount of authority that PEOPLE IN GENERAL sincerely believe they have to categorise, discriminate, or include. They usually decide based on what makes them most comfortable. I guess that makes sense…
Manchester Public Hearings of Immigration System on Trial coming up on 22/02/2014
Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
Caseworker Emmanuel Lartey has the power to make a decision on Aderonke’s asylum application.
Will you call Emmanuel now and ask him to approve the application immediately?
If you are in the UK:
· Call: 020 8760 8700
If you are NOT in the UK:
· Send Emmanuel an email here: email@example.com
Here’s what you can say for either message:
“Dear Mr. Lartey, I urge you to approve Aderonke Apata’s application for asylum into the UK, regardless of the Home Office’s controversial belief that she need to prove her sexuality. If Aderonke is sent back to Nigeria she will be imprisoned - if not sentenced to a horrible death. Her life is in your hands. Grant Aderonke asylum now.
"I fled for my life" - This is Aderonke’s story
"Growing up in Nigeria, I was unable to disclose my sexuality, yet unable to hide it.
The culture in Nigeria makes it clear that being gay or transgender is a sin, a sentiment that is fueled by homophobic messages from faith communities, political leaders, families, and schools.
I took these messages in, identified with them, and carried the shame of being a lesbian woman in Nigeria.
After graduating from University, I was arrested, tortured and extorted by the Nigerian Police. I was forced to endure the murder of three members of my family, who were killed because of my sexuality.
After a false allegation of adultery, I was sentenced to death by stoning by the “Sharia” Court.
It was then that I fled for my life.
Now, I am under threat of deportation in the UK, at risk of being sent back to a country that just passed an anti-gay law that would send me to prison for 14 years. I feel I will receive that sentence only if I am able to keep my life.”
Please share this story with others, and ask them to join us in protecting one of Nigeria’s bravest activists and voices for equality.